I attended the barbecue where the Men’s Fraternity program was introduced to the men from churches in Friday Harbor. We viewed a DVD of Robert M. Lewis promoting the program, especially The Quest for Authentic Manhood series. Frankly, the title kind of put me off. I am 72 years old and gave my life to Christ when I was 18 years old in college. So I was thinking “I am pretty sure about my manhood!” But as I listened to Robert I realized he had some very practical ideas about how to improve family relations.
What really grabbed me was his three things fathers need to tell their sons which I understood to be; “I love you”, “You are good at …….” and “I am proud of you”. They really resonated with my life experience and recently I said those very things to my 40 year old son who had just told me that he and his wife were getting a divorce. He blamed himself and said he felt like a complete failure to his kids.
So if I am already doing this, I thought on the way home, why would I want to spend my time taking this course? It was then the Lord hit me between the eyes by revealing to me that I have a wife and a daughter I have never said that to! I couldn’t wait to find the chance to say those three things to them. I told each of them at an appropriate time and you must know they loved hearing it. And you also must know I will be taking the course.
Chuck VandeWetering
Friday Harbor
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